Letter to Ali, The Bachelorette

Dear Ali,

First of all, I think you seem pretty genuine, intelligent, and fun. If we met, I think we’d be friends. With that, I’d like to give you some friendly insight as to you why you keep failing at love. Believe me, I know a thing or two about failing at love OVER AND OVER AND OVER, but look at me now – I’m married to my best friend, have a cute kid with another on the way, and am very happy. So please, hear me out…

Here’s the problem: you fall in love with jerks. You have to break the pattern if you’re going to have a real chance at happiness. You fell in love with Frank because he was hesitant about you – it was obvious that he had something “holding him back” (as he said about 20 times in last night’s episode). I mean, he was the only one that didn’t repeatedly express his interest in being with you and that “he was there for the right reasons” (another phrase which I’m sick of, but you get the point). I’m guessing that in the past, you probably fell in love with other Franks and got your heart broken, and that’s what you’re going to continue until you QUIT DATING THE SAME GUY OVER AND OVER AGAIN, AND EXPECTING DIFFERENT RESULTS!

You need to step outside your comfort zone and start giving the nice guys a chance. Yes, it’s different in the beginning. Maybe you’ll start out with a strong friendship, and things will move slowly and you won’t see that “instant connection” that you had with Frank. It’s going to grow slowly, over time, and THAT is the relationship that’s going to stand the test of time. Yes, some women find that instant connection thing and it ends up working out in the long term, but sista, you and I are not those women, because we have “instant connection” with bad people. You need to change your stripes, and it’s going to feel strange, like detox… but it’s what you need to do. Detox yourself of the shitheads you’ve been dating.

Is that clear? If you want to hug it out, or talk, call me!

Love, Mer

It's a GIRL!

 

So I'm a bit overdue in announcing some huge news for the Mer Show family...  we're having another baby!!  For those of you doing the math, that means that Patrick will be 22 months older than the new baby.  I've heard that little kids that are close in age are really, super close, so I'm really hopefully that I'm cooking up Patrick's future BFF.  :)

And yesterday, we found out it's going to be a baby GIRL!  I knew it all along, because I've been much sicker this pregnancy, but it sort of hit my lovely hubby like a brick.  He had in his head that it was a boy, and had visualized two little boys running around this house some day, so he really believed that we were going to find some boy parts in that sonogram.  No dice!  But of course, he's thrilled and excited about this surprise!

For those of you that knew me growing up... or in my teenage years... or my 20s... this might possibly concern you a bit.  LOL  I was a bit of a curious, rambunctious, rule-breaking, assertive young thing that definitely drew outside the lines.  (But hey, I worked it all out and became a productive member of society, right?!)  I'm pretty determined to use all the lessons I learned to teach my little girl (and Patrick, too) how to avoid some of the mistakes I learned, but how to be unafraid to be who they really are, and to concentrate on being kind to others and making good decisions.  :)

Like I said, I was really sick in the beginning of this pregnancy, which also explains my lack of updates here on this blog.  I apologize!  Every waking moment that I wasn't at work (working my tail off), running after my hell-on-wheels toddler (he is so stinkin' hilarious these days, but requires a lot of energy to keep up with), I was pretty much passed out on the couch.  I'm feeling a lot better these days - energy is back, for the most part, and my appetite has returned, for the most part, and I think I'm back to myself again.

I'm sure that Sheridan is glad about that - he's really had to step up to the plate the last few months to take care of me, Patrick, the house, and our life.  I'm so grateful to have married a wonderful person, so full of love, and such a great father.  There's no way I could be a pregnant, full-time working mommy of a rambunctious toddler, with a house to keep, crazy dog to manage, and ever get any rest at all...   BIG KUDOS to my husband for hanging in there with me through this crazy pregnancy!  I love you, babe!

I promise not to let so much time lapse between future postings.  I think I'm getting back to normal, and you guys need to hear all about it.  ;)

Love, Mer